In that case though, there is at least a fact to work with. I'm not arguing that we use female pronouns. I certainly wouldn't want anyone feeling diminished (other than...the person in question). But I really not convinced yet that this person is trans, or irish, or living in his car, or whatever else he's said. Since we really can't know anything concrete about each other in fandom, as soon as you start deliberately, demonstrably lying about EVERYTHING, it all comes up for question.