From the "who knew" file...

[ivyblossom]

If you've been a lesbian your entire adult life and then meet an amazing person you want to marry who happens to be a man, you are going to a) cause much ire and consternation among some people who you once considered good friends and amazing people, and b) be the butt of the anger and contempt of said former friends.

For the record: I'm not your lesbian role model, and I never should have been. My life is my life, not your political slogan.

But hey, maybe that's the price you pay to start being eligible for heterosexual privilege.

Comments

[djin7.livejournal.com]

O_o Wtf.

Anyways, I just wanted to say congrats about the prognosis, and your hopeful future! Be happy. ♥

[(Anonymous)]

If they weren't the one to put the ring on your finger, then they have no right judge you about these matters. I think it's beautiful that you found love in an unexpected place (or gender, rather). Life is too short to be held down by politics and other peoples expectations and presumptions. Congrats on your marriage, your health and for setting the record straight!

[mawaridi.livejournal.com]

Ugh. That is just ugly. I could go off on a political rant but I wouldn't put forward anything that hasn't been said already, so I'll just say shit, I'm really sorry. That kind of backlash is the last thing anyone should have to put up with after the year you've had. I guess it just goes to show that even amazing people can become amazing idiots when misguided politics come into it.

[nightbluesprite.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry that people feel the need to rain all over your parade. Why can't they just be happy for you?

Well, I am. *HUGS* And congratulations, again!

♥

[lasultrix.livejournal.com]

I wish I could say that this surprised me. The sad truth is that if you said that nobody had reacted badly and nobody had thought of you as some sort of traitor, I'd be shocked.

*hugs* When the world gets less homophobic. this siege mentality will dissipate.

I use this icon I made ages ago, based on your "Michael Rosenbaum is stealing my gay!" phase!

[metal-dog5.livejournal.com]

I'm sorry. Do these people not see the hypocrisy they're applying to you and how you choose to live your life and who you love. As long as you are happy, what does it matter who you're with?

[complicittheory.livejournal.com]

I'm sure I pointed toward tom robinson before...

You'll always be Ivy Blossom to me. Seriously. Well, 1/3rd of you will be.

[cherrybomb07.livejournal.com]

What. WHAT?? Of all people, shouldn't they be understanding and not be so bloody hypocritical? Pot, kettle, black. Oh my God, I'm so annoyed on your behalf! Love is love, end of. It must be so hurtful, especially from people you considered to be good friends :( I'm really sorry - heterophobia is no better than homophobia, and I'm just staggered that they don't see that.

[laurenmitchell.livejournal.com]

Oh, Ivy. *hugs* One of my closest friends here also identified as a lesbian as long as I knew her up until she fell in love with someone who happened to be a man, and so I can totally understand how it happens, and I'm sad that people are being dickish about it. I guess I can understand it on a personal level in a way; I still identify as queer -- leaning towards pansexual, if I must have a more specific label -- and yet because I'm married to a man, the assumption tends to be that I'm heterosexual. (When of course I'm actually just Veelasexual.)

Your sexual preferences and their potential to change over time in no way negate your awesomeness.

[treehavn.livejournal.com]

Who is being mean to you? Tossers. Want me to go and beat them up (or realistically, throw librarian-esqe scathing looks in their general direction)?

Btw, fucking congrats on tenure! Am I to understand that they award this to all librarians in Canada, or does being fucking awesome help? ;)

[ninja-tech.livejournal.com]

I remember I was a bit confused when I peeked back in to the LJ world a while ago to find you married to a man, but was all for it. I'm still for it - as long as you are happy! I hope those people can eventually see it that way too. *hugs*

[euoi.livejournal.com]

I'm sorry if I'm sort of intruding on a private matter, I'm a lurker from your fanfic days.. but I guess they're angry because it somewhat proves that homosexuality is a choice, and therefore something that can be 'cured'. Of course that should have no bearing on your personal relationships. I sort of understand where they're coming from though. Hope with time they'll reconcile themselves to it.

[nicocoer.livejournal.com]

Sorry that someone freaked on you! As long as you are happy, how is it anyone's business who you choose to spend your life with?

[starongie.livejournal.com]

-cough- I am so not late.
The date lies to you, spare it no other thought.

-tilts head- Actually, I think you might as well label yourself Pansexual: I love who I love not because of their gender, gender claim, but because of who they are and how we connect.

But personally, from friends? That's a magor letdown, 'fo sure.

[nemesina77.livejournal.com]

So, I don't really know you at all, though I did read your H/D fic back in the day of Veela, Inc., but, after randomly stopping by your livejournal and reading your last two posts I just wanted to drop a line. I think that it's quite ironic that you mention getting over cancer in one post and then have to deal with this in the next post. Seriously people, you had cancer and this is the crap they give you after dealing with that?!?

I totally subscribe to the belief that everyone (at least everyone female) is inheritly (sp?) bisexual and that who they spend the rest of their life with is not a matter of sexual identity, but rather who you manage to meet first. I'm married to a wonderful man who has been with me for eight and a half years of utter crap. My mother even once told me that I would NOT marry him, that he wasn't good enough (yet we so very sweetly proved her, and everyone else who said we wouldn't make it, wrong). We've been through cancer scares, spinal surgeries, births, deaths, and everything under the sun. I jokingly refer to myself as a "non-practicing bisexual" because I've repeatedly told him that if I hadn't met him when I was 15 that I definitely could have seen myself being with a woman, but that he was just lucky enough to have met me first.

Seriously though, life is too damn short and too damn precarious for you to worry about what anyone else says about YOUR life. All that should matter is that you're happy. FUCK 'EM ALL!!! (Of course, considering that you're ten years older than I am and have been through much more difficult times than I as well, I'm sure that I don't need to tell you this, though it is sometimes nice to hear that you're not crazy and that others agree with you and are outraged on your behalf).