From the "who knew" file...

[ivyblossom]

If you've been a lesbian your entire adult life and then meet an amazing person you want to marry who happens to be a man, you are going to a) cause much ire and consternation among some people who you once considered good friends and amazing people, and b) be the butt of the anger and contempt of said former friends.

For the record: I'm not your lesbian role model, and I never should have been. My life is my life, not your political slogan.

But hey, maybe that's the price you pay to start being eligible for heterosexual privilege.

Comments

[laurenmitchell.livejournal.com]

Oh, Ivy. *hugs* One of my closest friends here also identified as a lesbian as long as I knew her up until she fell in love with someone who happened to be a man, and so I can totally understand how it happens, and I'm sad that people are being dickish about it. I guess I can understand it on a personal level in a way; I still identify as queer -- leaning towards pansexual, if I must have a more specific label -- and yet because I'm married to a man, the assumption tends to be that I'm heterosexual. (When of course I'm actually just Veelasexual.)

Your sexual preferences and their potential to change over time in no way negate your awesomeness.

[ivyblossom.livejournal.com]

I've always hated the either/or (choice vs. genetics, too) dynamic that resides inside gay culture. It's just not that simple, as much as we'd like it to be.