Hello, Dolly!

[ivyblossom]

So, just to recap: I got cancer, I had the surgery and the radiation treatment. It was a little rough for a while there, I learned a lot about being, as my doctor says, "in a compromised body", but I'm doing really well now. And while my first test (a whole body scan) came back showing more remaining tissue than anticipated (they did the test while I was still processing the radiation), my blood test shows that there's none left anymore, which as good as someone actually doing what I'd been wishing someone would do: look me in the face and say, "Ivy, you don't have cancer anymore." I'm doing pretty well these days, and I'm trying to get back to a normal life.

I've been playing around in Second Life a lot, ever since I got my attention span back. I've gotten pretty addicted to building things in there. If you have an SL av, let me know, it would be cool to hang out.

I got married in March; Mr. Blossom is living with me at present, though he's moving to Virginia in a few weeks for a job. (He's an itinerant professor at the moment.) We still need to sort out where we're going to live in the end. Just kind of taking it as it comes for the moment. He's currently in the kitchen making a raspberry cheesecake. He's an excellent chef. I wash the dishes, that's the trade off.

While the vet suspected it, I recently learned that my dearly-beloved 11 year old orange tabby cat (Horatio) does not have FIV. Yay!

I got permanent status (tenure) while I was off recovering. Each year I have this job the harder it is to think about leaving it. Let's hope Mr. Blossom can find a job in the area.

I'm waiting with baited breath to hear more about the Lexicon trial; did I miss something? Any news?

I did some clean up on the flist, and I'm trying to add a whackload of people, but LJ won't let me. Something about trying to add too many people at once. So more during the week, I expect. I'd like to get my friendslist balanced and add back everyone who's added me.

So what's new with you?

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[ivyblossom.livejournal.com]

No, you're right. I can't really explain it. I've known this guy for years online as a friend, and when we met in real life...I just knew. It was him or nobody. Not because he's male, certainly not, just because he's him. I guess partly I was getting a bit tired of the whole gay thing (well, I mean, the politics and the identity issues and all that) and the whole dating/relationship thing. I decided to stay single, so I wondered how best to identify myself. And I started thinking that I've never really been attracted to anyone's gender, and I'm not very visual, it has always been just about people. But I think I held myself back a bit as part of my identity, not acknowledging any feelings for the "wrong" people (though I can't really definitively state that I had any, it's just a suspicion). So I thought, okay, let it go, just don't pin yourself on any identities and see what happens. I was cool being single, I bought a condo, I was doing really well, so I didn't need anyone. And then I met up with Mr. Blossom, and it all just made sense.

But I don't think very much about me has actually changed, but this works. What can I say. :)

[pieslut.livejournal.com]

Thank you very much for answering my totally impertinent question. For a while I honestly thought I had you confused with someone else.
I wish you the best of luck with your new marriage. I personally can't think of a better reason to marry than the feeling of "This One. This is the One." I know that's why I married, and up to that moment I didn't think I would ever get married to anyone.
Also, congrats on the condo. That is a thing I do not know if I could have done on my own.

[ivyblossom.livejournal.com]

It's just like...I am a very solitary person (though not at all shy). I like my me time. And his probably the first person I feel like I can be "alone" with, you know? Like, we can be together and I feel as regenerated as I do when I'm completely alone.

Also, he makes me breakfast, packs my lunch, and has dinner ready for me when I get home. For now, anyway, while he's still here. :)

We also share a lot of interests, so we have some very weighty conversations about social networks and interactive software and online communities and whatnot.

Strange, but sometimes you just have to go with the flow. :)